Embracing Conflict: Why Being Hard on Your Characters Creates Compelling Stories

Recently, I had a discussion with a client who is crafting a novel about a woman who experiences mysterious blackouts, waking up in unfamiliar places without any recollection of her whereabouts. The premise itself is intriguing, but our conversation took an interesting turn when we delved into the concept of challenging our protagonists with compelling conflict—something I’ve noticed many writers, especially woman writers (we’re far too nice), often shy away from.

The Reluctance to Challenge Our Characters

As writers, we create characters from the depths of our imagination, imbue them with quirks and personalities, and just like that, they almost become a part of us. This connection, while beautiful, can sometimes be a double-edged sword. Because we relate so closely to our characters, we hesitate to put them through hardships. We want to shield them, wish for their happiness and success, perhaps much like we would for a friend or even ourselves.

However, as most seasoned writers would agree, the essence of a good story lies in conflict. Without challenges, without the trials and tribulations, a narrative risks becoming flat and uninspiring. It’s through these conflicts that characters grow, evolve, and become engrossing to readers who are, consciously or not, seeking a reflection of their own struggles and triumphs in these fictional journeys.

Pushing the Boundaries of Conflict

Take, for instance, the character in my client’s novel. Her blackouts, initially, led to nothing more drastic than forgetting to feed her dog. While neglectful, this scenario doesn’t quite exploit the full dramatic potential of her mysterious condition. During our coaching session, my client and I brainstormed ways to intensify the character’s plight, to really push the envelope and drive the narrative into darker, more urgent territories.

One idea was to have her “come to” in front of a burning stove, completely oblivious to how the fire started. Imagine the panic, the confusion, and the immediate need to piece together her actions. Another scenario could see her regaining consciousness while speeding down a freeway at 60 miles per hour—equally terrifying and a stark escalation from her previous experiences.

The Value of Pressure

These scenarios do more than just spice up the plot—they compel the character to act, to seek answers, and to confront her reality, however daunting it may be. This pressure is what moves a story forward, what keeps readers turning the pages. It’s the engine of change and growth.

So, to my fellow writers, I say: do not be afraid to be tough on your characters. Your story—and your characters—will be all the better for it. Remember, it’s through pressure that diamonds are formed, and it’s through conflict that your characters can truly shine.

And as always, if you’re struggling with your writing, reach out and book a time to chat with me about it. IfI’m not the right person to help, I almost certainly can point to someone who is.